Wouldn’t it be great to be able to put a little passion in your writing without fear. Particularly in your blogs, tweets, e-mails and other electronic formats where people exchange messages, ideas and opinions? Don’t you wish you could relinquish control once in a while and act out to your audience? Wouldn’t that be great? Well don’t do it! Listen to what Joe Seiders of CDI has to say about including a little passion in your writing and why not to.
“When is it Right to Write?”
By, Joe Seiders, Chief Legal Officer, CDI
What does it mean “to write”? It used to be easy. You took a pen and put words on paper. You were writing. Then along came the typewriter and things changed. A little. You put words on paper by pushing keys. The pen was gone but the paper remained. And whether you used the pen or pushed the keys, the person who held the paper was the one – the only one – who could read your message. Destroy the paper and your message disappeared.
Then, along came computers. And electronic communication. And things changed again. A lot.
“Writing” now means e-mails, postings and tweets. You still push keys to make the words – but the paper is gone. And therein lies the problem.
Electronic communication is different. It can live forever. No longer is the life of your message linked to the life of the paper on which it’s written. And with the simple pressing of the “forward” key, or the posting on a social media website, your message can be read by people you never intended to see it. So not only can it live forever but it can go everywhere – and be seen by anyone.
It’s pretty clear that many people don’t think about that when writing in electronic format. It’s as if they think that e-mailing, posting or tweeting isn’t even writing – that somehow it’s private, like writing the message on a piece of paper that, after being read, is destroyed by the recipient. But it isn’t. It isn’t like that at all.
We’ve all read the stories of how an e-mails, postings or tweest have come back to “bite” the writer. Embarrassment, loss of friendship, loss of jobs, loss of job opportunities, loss of lawsuits – all have been the results of “writings” that got into unintended hands. Writings that never needed to be written. And never should have been.
So, in this world of electronic communication, how do we know when it’s OK – when it’s right to write. Here’s a dozen guidelines for when it’s not:
- If you’re angry – don’t write it.
- If it’s derogatory or defamatory – about a person or a company – don’t write it.
- If it’s something about a person that you wouldn’t say to that person’s face – don’t write it.
- If it’s confidential – to a person or a company – don’t write it.
- If it’s something you would whisper – don’t write it.
- If you’d wink when you say it – don’t write it.
- If you’d first ask “Can you keep a secret?” – don’t write it.
- If the tone of your voice would be important to understanding it – don’t write it.
- If you’d first close your door before saying it – don’t write it.
- If you’d say “I’m only kidding” after saying it – don’t write it.
- If it’s vulgar or profane – don’t write it.
- If it’s something that might trigger or be involved in a lawsuit or some other legal process – don’t write it.
That last guideline is admittedly somewhat general but the point of it – and really, all of these guidelines – is to think about what you’re about to write before you decide whether to write it. E-mails and other electroninc communications are key items of evidence in today’s lawsuits and government investigations – generally to the dismay and detriment of the writer and the writer’s employer. If there’s any chance that someday you’d wish you hadn’t written it – Don’t write it!
The solution? Give thought to what you’re about to communicate and then communicate the old-fashioned way. Use the telephone. You still need to be careful about the content of your message but at least you won’t be carving it in electronic stone. Those people (and, in many cases, their employers) who had all the problems stemming from their e-mails, posts or tweets would not have had those problems if they had just used the phone.
Don’t think it will happen to you? It happens all the time.